Interviews from 700 adoptive families that have been followed during a decade will be presented. The identity processes and the health of adoptees, the adoptees´ parents and the adoptees´ families will be discussed in the frame of exclusion and xenophobia processes. The results that emerge are that the sense of loss and sadness for adoptees generally are not at all related to the loss of biological inheritance or the biological family. Rather, it is the loss of the emotional and / or practical attachments to the current life, nationality, family and civil society in the new context that is important. The narratives shared by the adoptees are that they have been reduced to skincolour or biological origin and not as human beings. Thus there is a gap between the individual apprehension of identity and belonging and the social counterpart.