Deployed family members meet different responses from within their families in context of deployments. In a dialogical participatory action research study involving Swedish soldiers and their families, 110 adults and 25 children narrated about their experiences of being or living with a deployed family member. In use of systemic and narrative ideas in combination with Appreciative Inquiry, the study focused on how soldiers and their families manage socially and relationally before, during and after deployments. Areas in focus were emerging interplay and communication; support needed, developed and used; solutions; recommendations to other families and different family members. Dialogical interviews were conducted with the whole participating family and/or some of the family members. Twenty-nine of the families (n=59) were followed before, during and after deployment. Twelve families were also interviewed later on – three years after the last interview closely after the deployment. With ethical considerations, the interviews were recorded, transcribed verbatim and thematic analyzed by the researcher. Result of the study: Narratives in different perspectives (soldier, veteran, home-staying partner, child, parent, sibling and others) lived and told, exposing different responses to and understanding of the phases of the on-going deployment cycle including for Swedish soldiers two periods of leave at home.