The aim of this study is to understand men who have been raped by other men, their experience of the rape and how they act. I have conducted 18 qualitative interviews with these men. During the process of analyzing the material I have used Randall Collins’ concepts of interaction ritual chains and forward panic together with Thomas J. Scheff’s concepts of emotional energy and shame. The rape made the interaction ritual chains break and the men had no words for these experiences. Through previous interaction ritual chains they have been shaped by the social construction of masculinities, sexualities and homosexuality. None of them worked. Instead they experienced that the social bond was threatened and that they internalized the shame of the rape and got drained of their emotional energy. This has put the men in a position where there were no words. Without words they are invisible in society and they are not able to process their experience of the rape by seeking professional help.